RE: The first pattern we all must learn if we want to study the Pacem Arts
I always thought of violence as a physical thing but since following your posts on steemit I understand my own behaviours and those around me much better and can pick out violent attitudes as well as words and actions. There are so many things to learn about ourselves let alone the behaviours of others! It is a long learning curve and the more I learn, the more I realise I have not even begin to scratch the surface! One thing I am learning is that I don't have to tolerate violence towards me and I can say this is not an acceptable way to approach me to my aggressor. I HATE conflict and actively avoid it, but I am getting better at setting my boundaries. It is amazing how many 'friends' disappear though once you start setting your stall out lol
Well done. Yes, we start setting boundaries, "friends" disappear. That is a good thing. They were not true friends. That opens us up for the possibility of making new friends who are real friends. Ones that will honour, respect and cherish us. People that will respect our boundaries and set the same kinds for themselves. These friends are most likely open to being confronted and open to confronting us on our own shit too. Those are real friendships. That is what makes real relationships too! Well done. You took a big step my friend in recognizing that violence is not only physical, but also emotional, mental and spiritual. Rare for people to figure that out.