ULOG 05:BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS THAT LAST
Every relationship starts with a dream. Most times, those dreams are short lived.
I will be sharing you some golden nuggets on "Building a Relationship That Lasts". These nuggets are relevant to building any relationship and live the dream on which it was initiated.
Nugget #1: Know The Values And Rules Of The Person With Whom You Are Involved.
No matter the bond you share with someone, no matter how both of you seems to be connected, there will be upset and debilitating stresses if you keep breaking each other's rule.
If you don't know (or have forgotten) your partner's rules, find them out. If it's been a while you discussed them, it's a good idea to check in again.
Everybody adopt principles by which their life and relations are guided. You don't have to share the same value and rules, just understand it and don't break it.
Nugget #2: See It As A Place You Go To Give.
One of the major problems in relationship today is, giving is one-sided.
Relationship is not a place you go to take. You mindset shouldn't be like, since he is my partner, he is obliged to give me or vice versa
Don't be take-centric, your partner will also appreciate your sacrifices. What you give should not be materialistic alone, give you time, effort, ideas.
Ask yourself, what is the most valuable thing i can give in my relationship?
Nugget #3: Focus each day on making the relationship better
Don't threaten to leave! Making the statement, 'if you do that, then I'm leaving, ' creates the possibility.
No matter how angry or hurt you feel, always hold on to the unquestioned existence of the relationship.
Two wrongs won't make a right.
Nugget #4: Kill the monster while it's little
Nurturing a relationship to achieve its maximum potential demands that, you murder the monster while it's little.
The monsters can be little issues you think you should take for granted. The monster can be an habit your partner keeps frowning at.
In fact, the monster can be needs of your partner often psychological that seems to mean nothing to you, but can eventually grow to something big!
Be conscious of any form of monster before it has a chance to grow out of proportion.
Nugget #5: Rekindle your feelings of connection
One of the best things you can do each day is to experience afresh what you love about the other person. Reinforce your feelings of connection and rekindle the feelings of intimacy and attraction by constantly asking, 'how did i get so lucky to have you in my life?'
Get on a never-ending quest to find new ways to surprise and show appreciation for each other.
Find and create those special moments that can make your relationship legendary.
It's advisable to constantly restating your commitment to each other - and be true.
Nugget #6: Spend time with each other
Time is a valuable component. Spending time with each other creates a sense of appreciation and value.
It also enables you to learn about each other and find out what's most important to each of you.
Nugget #7: Keep Communication Active
Verbal and nonverbal communication are crucial recipes for a successful relationship.
Verbal communication is important to keep the bond. Communicating your worries to each other, keeping each other informed of plans, among others strengthen relationship.
Hearing the scream of your partner in his/her silence is a strong part of nonverbal communication. But don't admit your partner knows what's going on in your mind. If your gesture or facial expression is not understood, go verbal!
Nugget #8: Use Affirmative Words
You can't imagine how people feel when you use constructive and affirmative words. 'You look enthralling in your outfit','You did that perfectly, I'm proud of you!,'Your smile is contagious',etc are words of affirmation that build bond.
If you need to criticize, do that with love, and in smiles!
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