Thanks for your long post : )
Caring for an ill family member is extremely hard. You're going through a lot! Wow. Try and make a bit of time for yourself and your health... you can't help anybody if you're sick or dead.
I did have some luck when posting a video using the tag "introduceyourself".... did that and got noticed a bit. I hope that if I keep putting out quality content, and making quality comments, it will pay off in views (which indicates to me my voice is being heard). If I earn digital currency units, nice bonus.