I know it gets a lot of hate, but that 2004 Thomas Jane Punisher was absolutely awesome for me. I don't have a lot of history with the character, though I did read some of Garth Ennis's 'reboot' of the character for Marvel's MAX imprint and liked what I saw.

Again, not a super-fan, I've not seen the sequel, nor have I seen the television show, but IMO that movie was just solid fun and Jane was perfectly cast.

I hope this improves for you, because holy geeze does it sound like a slow-burning start.