@jaynie,

Hon, we're all thinking of Jude, you and your husband. When I read your post, I could not help but transpose Katie for Jude, Dezzy for Holly and me for you. Geez ... not good.

Alas, random and senseless misfortune is a reality of life, like getting hit by a bolt from the blue. What can you do? You find your friends, mourn and, eventually, pick yourself up and move on.

Quill