RE: On Thursday, October 5, 2017 at 7:28 am, my husband left me in an email.
I was moved by your story, but I experienced it from the other perspective - - I was the one who left. I did it in person, and worked hard to make the transition as easy as possible for the ones I left (my wife and 3 boys), but it was still hard for all. That was almost 20 years ago now. Since then, I've learned that I wasn't the victim that I thought I was then (I had my role in it) and my ex learned that she wasn't the wife that she thought she was then. I remained in my boys' lives and we get along well to this day.
Through much Grace and soul-searching, our lives (and ourselves) are better now than we were then, but we might have been just as well now if we had worked just a bit harder back then. We both have moved on and found new ones to share our lives with. It's too bad that it took something traumatic to get us to see the areas we needed to change to be able to move on...
Thank you @jdkennedy for sharing your story. It takes bravery to make change, no matter how it's done or what the outcome. Grace worked quickly in my partner and I, and we were able to move through the soul-searching and self-discovery you mentioned quickly enough that our family got back together after 6 months. But it was work, and still is work, and it only worked because both of us could look both outside of ourselves and deeply within ourselves at the same time to truly allow lasting change and deep healing. Grace is tricky like that. I am grateful you, and your family, found peace too. 🌱