Ugh. No one gets to tell you how you respond to oppression and aggression. I can't stand policing people's emotions. If we're honest about it, it should be the responsibility of those of us who are cis/het to educate the transphobic. You honestly don't need the extra work. I know you have to do it because your life is in danger, but I look forward to more allies stepping up their game and doing some education. Excellent post. Super informative. Thanks, beautiful.