There are active laws on the books in 47 states defending a person's right to kill a trans person if they are startled by the fact that they are trans during sex.

has a one in twelve chance of being murdered before they turn forty to calm down ...

? is that greater risk of being murdered for TRANS people- because more of them are SEX workers, than the population in general. Because ALL SEX WORKERS have a greater chance of being murdered?

(I am in no way insinuating you are a sec worker - or that all trans-women are sex workers- but I have found a disproportionate number of trans- women are)

? are there? is there a reference source, what states are they?
? if two people are going to be so intimate as to have, don't both people have a right to know who they are having sex with? And shouldn't a person- KNOW their going to bed with before hand?

I have experienced actual combat in my time in the military and I can tell you the stress of being in the public eye for the majority of the day as a trans women is very similar to the stress of being on patrol. Always on edge, ever vigilant of attack, verbal or physical.

I have no doubt it is stressful for you. So you're mostly in a state of FIGHT or FLIGHT- besides the obvious TOLL that must take on you- IS IT NOT POSSIBLE- that also makes you Hyper-sensitive & would make one in general- more prone to BLOW things Out Of Proportion?