Sir James, this is a very brave confession! Mistakes are inevitable since we're human. But our humanity doesn't excuse us from doing mistakes -- especially when it involves hurting others. I'm glad that you have gained wisdom from this experience. I know that this lesson has already put a mark in your heart, so I'm confident you won't do it again! :) I hope things will get better for you and your wife. Comfort her, make her feel secure (again), and soon enough things will be as how they were. Fighting!