Sometimes we just have to let it go...
Have you ever caught yourself thinking about the friends you had at school or that boy next door you used to play together as children?
Do you recall your fun moments and wonder what happened or why did you end up not having any contact with them after all these years?
Missing a friend is difficult. But are you sure that it was a friend after all?
The nostalgic thoughts about an old friendship often make us feel like we've lost a significant part of our lives.** Even thinking that we may lose contact with someone we love, makes us feel a knot in the stomach**.
And there is a very special form of sadness when we recall a lost friendship. But from where I stand...Is this really a loss?
Life and people are constantly changing
As the direction of our life changes, so do the people in it. Of course not everyone. Some relationships, such as our family or our other half, are hard to come and go.
Friendships are usually those that tend to change over time. We all have to bear in mind, that a friendship is a voluntary relationship that we choose to do and is not governed by forms and rules.
So, as our life demands a change - like when our program suddenly fills up with university classes or with a tedious job or with family obligations - your friendship is also changing: it is no longer the absolute priority.
As we grow older, not only the demands of our life change, but we also begin to realize what it is that we ultimately want. What kind of people do we want to have in our lives.
Our old friend from school suddenly does not fit our needs. And that's perfectly normal. The curtain in a friendship can fall for a variety of reasons and this is not necessarily a bad thing...
Stopping an unnecessary connection is something healthy and normal
The first step to reach what we really want from people and from out life is awareness: we need to understand which people turn out to be toxic for us...The connection we have with these people is not a real friendship, so stopping it means losing something fake and superficial.* It is more of a benefit than a loss*.
After that, we can focus on the important things. But how can we stop our relationship with someone who until yesterday felt our friend?
Well...I guess this is something that each and everyone of us has to find his own unique way to accomplish...
True friendships are rare...
If we distinguish the meaningless friendships from the real ones, we will be able to focus on the things that are important to us in life without distractions.
We should “work” more trying to develop a mutual and deep friendship!
Have a great one people.
Cheers.
I believe that ultimately the true relations come out and last.
I have lost many friends along the way, especially due to very often moving from place to place / from city to city.
Some people are still in the heart and I know that anytime we can get together again.
If for some reason the relation is broken, then the best thing is to let go. It can only be hurtful to remember and to wonder why. It is not easy to get into people's head. Assumptions can only make it more difficult, you get to loose your time, temper, sanity :) And these we need most, especially during the last few months.
Have a good Palm Sunday my friend.
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