Therapy recognise happiness
In Zone Therapy,the backs of the hands are the way to tap into calm.The lightest possibble upwards stroke with the fingertips helps to induce a relaxed state.
Pressure phrases like I have to ...I must,,,I should .....I don't have the time', exacerbate feelings of stresss.
Listen for such words in your thoughts and speech, then replace them with more relaxed phrases 'I may ..I choose to ' I will make the time'
Learn to recognise signs of tensions and anxiety in others.In this way you can be aware of your own physiology , and can Work towards becoming calm.