The Judas Effect - Betrayal

The definition of betrayal stated in Google is👇🏼

“the action of betraying one’s country, a group, or a person; treachery.”

Based on studies on marriage relationships, more men (60%) compared to women (40%) betray their spouses. Only a few will admit it unless they finally get caught by their spouses, some will even keep denying the fact by covering it with lies... and more lies.

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These can include all types of relationships whether it’s with parents, siblings, friends, family, spouses, children, etc. My personal definition of betrayal is putting one’s own selfish desires first without thinking of the consequences of their action towards the ones closest to them.

Betrayal in a relationship is not just about the infidelity but it’s becomes a broken agreement, implicit or explicit, that is considered vital to the integrity of a relationship. Once it’s broken it cannot be restored in its original form, example like a broken glass, the more one tries to pick the shattered pieces the more it hurts, and even though one managed to glue the whole glass together it will not look or fuction the same.

In my personal experience I grew up knowing the feeling of betrayal from all sorts of relationships, parents, close friends and intimate relationships... it’s a emotional journey for me. It’s a vicious cycle and I came to understand that i can’t stop it because we can’t change people, but I must admit it made me a stronger person that I am today because of the experiences that I had to faced during those dark moments of mine.

Forgiveness is the only way that can heal a broken and abused heart. And it’s not a pill that you can swallow and be healed immediately (I wished), it takes time... years to heal, but you have to open up your heart to let go of the pain. Yes it take buckets of your tears and it’s ok to let it out because it will make you feel better. Once you forgive the person your burden will be lifted up, you will feel free. Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free and that prisoner is you.

Please know that you are not alone should you ever find yourself in this kind of situation because help is available. In my case my church cell group and family were there for me through the whole ordeal. It is not easy and it will never be, but you are strong and you can overcome this test.

Remember life is about being happy.. and you deserve it!!! There always rainbow after the rain.