Simplicity is a true gift, it is like a child who sees something that surprises him, his face is a poem of great happiness, but over time the same thing that gave him happiness before today is not enough, we always want to improve and it is not wrong only that it is fair to expect from oneself not from others. It is easy to demotivate when you have exhausted the resources and more if you are running out of ideas, what would you do is analysis question observe to what extent I can influence a person positively, however it is difficult because we are not machines to know which are the faults and solutions. Help economically must have a limit, you must help to act to have ideas, a person with clear ideas, with tangible goals and objectives can recover much easier, I think you should find a reason to make John believe in an idea, a reason why which fight, goals and objectives which follow and fulfill.