My Story Part 1; The Calm before the Storm

african.child (30)in #story • 3 years ago (edited)

Soo much to say. Soo many emotions.I watched the cursor blink for so long before I could actually start writing. Let’s start from when I met him.

Friends introduced me to him (my current husband).Before then, I’d been single for a couple of years; had one or two flings but not really interested in a relationship. A relationship sounded like too much work; too exhausting. I was enjoying my life just how it was; work hard, play real hard. I lived alone too so you know; it was all amazing.

Anyway back to the matter. When we were introduced I found him a bit too quiet(ermm boring..lol). I’m not a talkative but I like a good conversation. His conversations were a bit on the negative side normally; accusing somebody of this or that etc..there was always something I had to brush off and stir the conversation in a different direction. I overlooked all that (RED FLAG!) and always made sure I’d make conversations engaging and entertaining; easy for me..it comes to me naturally lol. I guess I did this because although very quiet, he was willing to do anything and everything I suggested; go here and go try their sushi, travel there and go check out the new piece of art they put up etc.It was fun and interesting.

A date or two in and he goes “I like you and I’d like to marry you along the line”. This might be flattering to most but not me.I was taken aback. In my head I was like “you don’t know me dude so what exactly is making you want to marry me?”..I guess I should have voiced it out.

The next time was when he said “I love you” while dropping me off after couple of dates. Without thinking I just said “No you don’t”😂😂😂😂. I really did mean it because come on!

So after awhile he asked me to be his girlfriend.I asked for some time to think about it. Something just didn’t sit right with me. Now I know it was my gut feeling.

“NEVER IGNORE YOUR GUT FEELING!”

I know its hard to tell the difference between gut feeling and fear; I had fear of not meeting someone else soon in the back of my mind somewhere. I remember telling one of my friends that I wasn’t really feeling him like that. She was like “he really likes you and I feel he’ll do anything for you”. That warmed my heart so I thought “Oh well he’s always willing to do stuff for and with me and love grows right? So this can work”.
And on that note I told him “Yes I will be your girl but don’t make me regret this”.
And then we were an item☺️.