Step Parenting Made Easy
Step Parenting is a topic that so many people face with serious problems. Every parent dreams of having a happy family and raising their children in the best possible atmosphere, where there is peace, joy and love in the family. But sometimes it doesn't always happen like this. The problem starts when each parent doesn't seem to agree with the other's idea anymore and before you know it they are already breaking up and calling it a shutdown. Most of the time, children see these disagreements between their parents which are already very traumatic for them. So it can be difficult to adjust to someone who is not their biological parent, let alone the fact that they weren't really comfortable with their own biological parent initially. When parents separate and marry another partner, this is where parenthood begins.
If you're a step-parent and confused and don't know what to do to make your step-child (s) like you, here are some tips that can turn your parenting nightmare into a beautiful morning.
Tips for in-laws
Being a step-parent is not at all easy; I can say this because I was a victim. I was a little boy when my mom left my dad. The reason he left was because my older sister got pregnant and my dad said he couldn't let her stay with him anymore and she had to move out and go stay with my grandmother. This idea was too crazy for my mom to agree, but after a series of discussions, she finally agreed to move. The day my sister was due to leave, my mother said that she was going to take her to my grandmother's house herself. She took her to my grandmother's house with a prior arrangement, but when she got there and stayed for about two weeks, she decided on her own that she would not come back to my father. This decision has already been traumatic for me and my siblings. A year later my father married other women for a reason we had never seen before.
At that point all I did was fight and complain about everything she did to my dad, she wasn't friendly either. She yells at me and tries to hit me differently, which I didn't like. I might not be able to go into all the details of the story. But the whole idea behind this story is that her behavior was already bad towards me, so I fought her with everything I had. She was able to last 5 years, after which she had to leave because my dad started having problems with her too.
As a step-parent, you need to understand that the mother or father of the child you're about to leave with might love you at first, but your attitude and actions towards them can change everything. Try as much as possible not to take things too personal as they are only trying to protect their home which is okay for everyone.
Step-parenting would be easier for you if you started loving your stepchildren regardless of what they do to you. "Life is an echo, it gives back what you give", the action corresponding to love is love. Over time and a constant display of love, your stepchild (s) will learn to love and respect you.
Your stepchildren have a strong possibility of making your marriage work or not. So take your time, observe them, be patient, respect their privacy and above all love them. If you can do this, having a happy marriage shouldn't be a nightmare.