HOW TO OVERCOME DIFFICULT MOMENTS?
Ideally we all like to imagine ourselves better than we are, we dream of living full days of happiness or reaching the end of our lives with a broad smile, the fruit of many years of good times. However, life often shows us other realities.
The reality is that everything is cyclical, and that for the same reason that you live moments of intense happiness, you will also live opposites.
In these cycles that we live, there are many people that when things go bad, they tend to throw in the towel, despair and cause more damage still around them and themselves.
In life you will live many difficulties. In fact, every day you will live some and many of them are inevitable. But what you can change, is the attitude you want to have before the difficulties that life puts you. For this, always remember the following:
- If you want to know happiness, you must also know sadness.
- If you want to know love, you also need to know the lack of love.
- If you want to know about health, you must also have experienced some illness.
- If you want to know the encounter, you must also know the loss.
We all will want to throw in the towel at some point. No one is oblivious to the feeling of helplessness and frustration or stress that seems to have no end. On more than one occasion we have been about to explode and say "I can not anymore". Finally, we are human, are not we?
However, what distinguishes successful people from the rest is perseverance; an attitude that is nourished by patience, learning and self-reflection. If you are going through a difficult stage in your business, personal life or work, you must know some tools that help you overcome those crises and turn them into a step to succeed. Take note:
1. Make small improvements in your life
If you feel too much pressure at work or at home, try to change some things that increase your level of stress and anxiety. For example, order your desk or arrange those papers that have you worried. Identify those pending that bother you in different areas and define which are easy to attend; You will notice that most will take less than two hours and that it will mean a great change in your life.
2. Lean on positive people
What you need least in these moments of crisis is to surround yourself with people with a negative attitude. If you do so, you will absorb their bad vibes and only increase your frustration. On the contrary, positive people may be just what you need to transform your mood and see things from another perspective.
3. Get away from the problem
If you have a routine it will be very difficult for you to stop thinking about the difficult situation you are going through. Therefore, the best thing to do is to carry out some activity that you normally do not do. You could take a few minutes to walk in a park or maybe take a tour of a museum; that is, you must "change the air". You will return to the office with new ideas and solutions.
4. Do not take it personally
It is the wisest advice that your friends and family have given you. When you have a problem with a person or you face a failure, the most common is to turn this situation into a reminder of your shortcomings and limitations. "I'm not good for this" or "that person hates me" are common phrases. To get ahead you will have to stop thinking like that, be empathetic and try to understand why it happened or why the other acted in that way.
5. See the good things
When we are going through difficult times we tend to see everything black. This is how we stop seeing the good that happens around us. Take a few minutes to calm down and think about the positive things. Try to write and read them every so often. It will serve as a reminder that not everything is wrong.
6. Meditate
This exercise can be extremely relaxing and inspiring. Start every day by meditating for about five minutes. Use that time to focus on your breathing and your body. Let the thoughts pass and avoid judging them. Try to do it in a quiet place, right after getting up. It will reassure you.
7. Disconnect
If your company is suffering a crisis or you have a serious problem at work, it is likely that you will have difficulty setting aside your computer or cell phone. However, spending a completely "unplugged" time, away from messages and problems could be the best vitamin.
8. Exercise
I know what you think: "I do not have the time or inclination to run or go to the gym." Yes, your agenda is saturated, but that's not why you have to neglect your body and your health. In addition, exercise serves to release endorphins, which translates into excellent therapy to expel your anger or sadness through your movements.
9. Find your mentor
As we always advise, in your career as an entrepreneur and professional it is essential that you have this figure. It can be a friend, a teacher or a relevant personality in your sector; the important thing is that he is someone with experience and that he is honest enough to speak to you with the truth. Relaxing with him or her will give you a sense of peace, and you could also receive advice that allows you to alter that terrible course you are following.
10. Find the root cause
When you go through a difficult moment, it is normal for you to blame everyone, to let off steam with your partner and your friends and to be against anything that is put in front of you. The most advisable thing is that you feel to think and analyze what is the reason why you have those feelings. Doing so will help you understand if it is something that you can control or something that you do not and that you should rather accept and let go. That's where the wisdom lies.
I hope you liked it! :)