Take your physical body. Only the whole body can take you from one place to the other, but none of the bodies parts - legs, lungs, heart, brain - can do that on their own.
Haha :) I felt that literally when I had a C-section. It turned out that if you want to lift your bottle with water your abdominal muscles also take part in this movement. So, if they are cut, no water for you :D Oh, how naive I was about my body system back then :D :D :D
I very much appreciate that the paradigms are shifting and that both - systems and scientific thinking - can coexist, for those thinking methods have undoubtably their advantages.
I couldn't agree more :)
Thanks for creating this wonderful article and presenting this case. When I worked in a school this finger pointing was the toughest part of my job. I was a school psychologist for a couple of weeks but then I quitted for the very reason that the principal of the school refused to see my role as a person who is there to dive into the conflict and see it as a whole. She expected me to point fingers to the "bad" kids and to calm down the "victims" and their parents. Which is what the school did in this case.
However, I am not sure that it is our individualism that gives us the illusion that we don't play a role in what's going on around us. Or it is just human nature to point fingers to find guilt. Have humans ever lived in organizations in which they didn't see problems but situations? It's just like our bodies and minds are made to recognize only conflicts and problems - adrenalin and cortisol rushes, fight or flight mode. It takes a conscious effort to reframe a situation and to make yourself behave in a different way. You don't ask these aesthetic questions spontaneously :) Or do you? :)
By the way, this is the first time I hear about these aesthetic questions. I should research it further :)
Thank you again for this wonderful sharing!
Yes, a very good example! If you have an operation scar, you know that everything is connected :)
I suppose until things change in school life some water will still flow down the rivers. Systemics is on the advance, but it seems that there is a lack of systemists in the individual disciplines or that proving guilty is a really annoying and persistent habit, which will only be balanced out by permanent different behavior and examples. But this takes time and patience. In any case, only a few percent of the population are willing to change their attitude to life, but often this small part is sufficient to bring about change. I am optimistic, because it is much more fun to live out one's own creativity than to get angry.
I don't believe that we are inherently problem-focused and adrenaline-driven. I think it's a way of looking at things. Take an ordinary day. Nothing special happens, you do your work or follow the tasks, you usually try to cooperate. Only the failures and exceptions, in which cooperation does not succeed, seem to be in the majority. But I don't think they are. They just like to be exaggerated and claim attention: undeservedly. The quiet tones can be learned to pay attention and the boredom in which nothing special happens can be regarded as an ideal. Just a long while :) Without the ability to put aside one's egoism and concentrate on the well-being of others, we as a human species would probably not have survived that long... ? Unfortunately, we have very dangerous tools and very powerful weapons at our disposal that could spoil everything. Well, you have to be optimistic here too, I think. Everything else is just depressing and leads to fear of life, which in turn inhibits the good things.
Sometimes the aesthetic questions come spontaneously. But often I have to think about it. When I have someone in consultation, I often remain silent for a while before I say something. For example, because I don't know what to say right now. Sometimes there is a flash of inspiration. But often not. I do not train that enough. You're right, you have to be constantly aware that you have the possibility. But it's really very stress-reducing.
Thank you for your thoughts and comments, which I always find valuable and complementary.
I try to live in this way but I often fail and get carried away by "problems" :D
I agree with you that we wouldn't survive as a species if it wasn't our cooperation. And that we don't necessarily aim to get into conflicts in the first place. I find myself lately to have a very low opinion for our humankind :/ Maybe it's about time I put some conscious efforts to reframe it and look more optimistically at our future :)