Personally, for most of my life, if I'm asked if I can do something for someone I find it hard to say no. I mean, what reason would I have not to help. When I was a child, my mum would always ask me over my two brothers because she knew I wouldn't kick up a fuss about helping, I'd just do it.

Over the years since meeting my wife, she has often got annoyed with me for helping others too much. Now that might sound odd but I can see what she's saying.

Some people will keep asking me to do things most of which they are more than capable of doing for themselves. They 'take the piss' if you like. Then to top it all off, if I ask for assistance with something, they have an excuse for why they can't help.

To be honest it pisses me off! How hard is it to do a favour, lend a hand?

Now I'm afraid, It has to be a two way street! If people want my help, then I expect their help in return. Not straight away, but if and when I need it at some point in the future, I expect them to return the favour!

I believe that that is the fair way to be. If it's always going to be me doing the giving and never getting help in return.... Then Sorry but fuck you!

I know that that is not exactly selflessness but I do need to draw a line somewhere. I never use to feel this way, I honestly still find it hard to say no. But I can't spend my life being run ragged for sole benefit of the takers.