RE: How To Teach Your Child Self-Control?
I really agree.
It has always been difficult to lear the skill of patience to kids, and maybe even harder nowadays.
My son is now 3,5 and has been really unpatience before.
One of the greatest thing ive done is to calm myself down and beeing a good example.
If i destroy my phone i will not get angry and just say "yeah yeah, that was sad, but its just a phone"
My son now copy that example.
I also have anotjer example. He love birthdays (who doesent)
And last week his little sister turned two year.
I knew this would be hard for him so i started calming him down two weeks before and told him: forst your little sister has birthday, then santa comes and after that you have birthday.
I told him i love when lther peoole have birthday. We can weak her up early in the morning and singing the birthday sonfg. And ylu can find one gift you believe she would love.
Tje day before her birthday he was pretty confident about that it was not his birthday and wr ernt to the store to buy her one Persent and let him choose one present for himself for beeing the best big Brother.
He understood he had to wait one day for opening the present and i believe he really understood that it was fun the celebrate her.
Only one time during the larty he was sad when they song the birthday song, so i told him he could help blowing out the candles and that next time it was his birthday.
It went really good.
I believe you really need to know what your kids difficulties is and prepare them and let them take part in the planning. That way they understand patience more.
Fun to be a parent. I love it and i now want to work with kids :)
Kids love me and I them. I was a heroin addict for many years and they say that people with addiction often is a more childish so maybe its therefore. I dont know but i will see if i can get some work with kids.
Thanks flr your toughts about the topic
That was really nice how you calm him down. It happened to my little girl also. Her little sister turned 10 months old few days ago and I asked her to sing a birthday song for her but she said it's her birthday. I had to made her understood that it's not her birthday and that others too celebrate their birthdays. she sang the song and was happy and playing with her sister.
Four days later, it was her dad's birthday and she did not hesitate to sing all day for him, lolx. That was on Tuesday. We just have to channel them the right way and make them understand the things around them. children learn gradually and they stick to it once they grab it.
Thanks for sharing your view.
Yeah. But had some " problems " with my son. He get really excited very fast and sometime get "mad" when he cant cobtrol his enviroment so i have asked the kindergarden to do thing a certain way.
The mast 6months things have been working out much better. But a lot of work to get hi where he is today.
Biti think nlthing is wrobg woth him. He just need a bit extra comforting right now. And give him so good tools so he can understand his own feelings better.
I say luckily we live in 2018. Alot lf smart people writing about parenting technics. Wheb i was his age and older i was screamed to an beaten.
I havw to admit i can get angry sometime. But i hardly get angry at kids. If you know how to behaviou with kids you dont need to get angry.
Good rhing ylu figured out with your fam.
..this birthday thing has been a issue the last 1.5 year here.
But noe he søeak so well and understand the norwegian and spanish languege well enough to understand what i mean.
Sometimes I get angry at my children but I feel sad when it happens. It's good to hear that he is getting to understand your language better.
Yes everybody get angry at them. Today he was mad at a stupid boy picking on him.
I encouraged him to yell back and telling the other boy he was wrong and should not do that to him.
The other parent look at me like i was mad..
But anger is a good thing to learn them if its in the right way i believe.
Good night :)