As a survivor of domestic violence it can be a hard topic to talk about, because you really just want to forget it and move on. The problem is you don't just forget it ever, and it changes you. Talking to someone is the best thing a person can do, no matter how embarrassed they feel. Also, I am so glad that you included never go back. Believe me, If it happened once, it WILL happen again. The abuser will try and blame you for what happened and down play what they have done. You will want to believe them, and they will probably tell you it will never happen again, but it will.