Christmas & Charity
No one should be alone with Christmas, the truth is many are or feel lonely and this is the hardest time of the year. Just because of a date.
Whoever believes I am good through and through and an idiot falling for every lie is wrong.
I hate doing good, charities because there is always more money going to the organization, a few people, than is spent on the cause. Giving, sharing is no fun and does not feel good if you have nothing to eat yourself or need the money badly in a week or month. The only thing that remains is bitterness because no matter how much you give, the receiver will never do anything for you if in need, will never ask how you are doing or coping.
Those who give a lot and are always there for others are the first to be forgotten because people think "they will manage" next to that they attract parasites.
After years of travelling and living in different countries, I noticed that the manipulating attitude is also a cultural difference. The "poor" countries find it very normal to manipulate, scam, lie and the expression "it is better to beg than to steal" does not impress me. There is something else besides begging, namely working! Working, getting to work, one or even three jobs is also an option to pay the bills. The result of not only dozens but even hundreds of years of development work is that the average person in need has learned that working is not necessary, being a farmer is looked down upon, just like running a shop, because you can just beg and if necessary extort money by force. A
Christmas Carol... Is Ebenezer a miser? I don't think so. He lives frugally and would be praised today for saving the environment and his low CO2 footprint. It's also not my belief that someone who works hard and saves should share his fortune with others. What is the value of honest work and money, investing your time, putting effort into something, if you get everything for free offered on a silver plate? Discontent and greed and it's what I see a lot around here lately.
I won't say that the streets where I live are full of beggars, but the behaviour of the average man who holds up his hand is more than shameful and aggressive. Even children are called misers if they don't give up all their pocket money.
Christmas? Doing good? I think it's hypocritical if you only do something for someone because of a date in the year. Why only then? Is it after "a good deed" easier to unwrap gifts or have a party without a bad conscience?
As far as Xmas is concerned, the reality is that many do not celebrate it for many years, even in countries that are thought to be rich. The only thing noticed is wealth shown in advertisements and commercials and on the internet. Christmas out on the street, under a bridge, in front of the Red Cross shelter that no longer has a bed available will never be made visible to all those depressed, lonely and elderly sitting in the cold and dark during this period of the year.
Charity, whether it is for your fellow man or an animal, is a rarity. "Exchange makes you cry", is a Dutch expression and so does the advice that you should not give away under duress or what you yourself cannot afford. But who admits that he lives in poverty if it is still seen as a disgrace or you are labelled a failure?
Fortunately, a lot has changed and more people dare to say that they are poor and put their pride aside.
Pride is worthless if you live on the street, are unemployed and have not eaten anything warm in weeks.
It is interesting to see how many immigrants know their way to all the aid agencies without fail, while their fellow countrymen do not know what to do, or who to ask in an emergency. By the way, I suspect that the situation is not much different from that of other countries,
Christmas as a date can be abolished. It only creates more hypocrisy and unhappy, depressed people. That tree with lights can also stand in the living room all year round as a reminder of the dark days that everyone has sooner or later in their lives. What we have in common worldwide is that the year in which we live is coming to an end. For some it is December for others this will be on January 29, 2025.
Let's all try to make a few friends and not lie to them and abuse them and also work on making Steemit a pleasant platform. You don't have to like me and can just ignore me there is enough space for everyone.
Donations/help during the dark days of the year?
I said I would see what I would do with the SP of this account.
I have delegated 50 SP to three artists each and also 1500 to the Art & Artists community.
The artists are @tezzmax, @krucekoncept and @jayes-art. Indeed, all three are Nigerian and I will support them as long as they invest in art and in Steemit.
Why not other artists? Because I don't see them, although a few have introduced themselves and next left.
More charity?
I did a round this morning to wish friends a good end. I also offered help to one of them. Not with Steem or SP because it simply takes too long to get my hands on it.
Is this the first time I've done this? No. The loan I once gave was neatly repaid without me having to ask for it (something that people can still learn from).
I had an unexpectedly active year and learned a lot through and thanks to Steemit and it was a good year. I hope you experienced the same.
Thank you to all those I met and the Steemit Team. Long story short: Merry days and a good end of 2024.
P.s. If you give do it only if you can miss it. See here for the Final Gift Exchange Contest hosted by @dove11.
I didn't join but did what I did.
24.12.24
I am speechless and amused at the same time because people like me never believe that we can do much more than exchange gifts with the money we have in our pockets.
You reminded me of the princess who saw a hungry person crying and when she asked her companion why was he crying. He told her that he had nothing to eat. The princess then asked if he had nothing to eat why doesn't he go and buy a cake.
Please let me know in case you want me to delegate SP to someone in need. I hope you know that I set two newbies as beneficiaries every week in two of my posts.
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Thank you @steemcurator03/@kouba01 for the support. I wish you a great evening and don't forget to relax! all the best to youand the team.
There was an old Dutch TV program where the "Lady" also said: Why do all those people complain? If you don't have bread you can eat cake. LOL I still say it to my children if there's nothing to eat: take a cookie or cake, it's the same.
I will let you know if I know someone. For now I will check the artists so they can post and promote themselves (voting included) if not I take it away.
You, me, everyone can do something. The smallest gesture cause a snowball effect and every Steem or cent counts. If the receiver isn't happy than it's nothing. It's as easy as that.
BTW I don't have bread but a cake is easily baked.
All the best, speak to you again.
P.s. you set two newbies? I thought one, I check asap.
Your post is a poignant and thought-provoking reflection on the complexities of charity, kindness, and community during the holiday season. You raise important questions about the motivations behind charitable acts and the potential for hypocrisy.
Your personal experiences and observations add depth to your arguments, and your willingness to challenge common narratives is refreshing. The Dutch expression "Exchange makes you cry" resonates, highlighting the importance of genuine connections and reciprocity.
Your call to action, encouraging people to build meaningful relationships and foster a positive community on Steemit, is inspiring. By promoting empathy, kindness, and authenticity, we can create a more supportive and inclusive environment.
Thank you for sharing your thought-provoking insights, this is a new perspective for me, I believe topics like this should be pushed out more.
Also, a huge Thanks for the delegation, I really appreciate your support and effort in my creative career and I wish you a peaceful and reflective holiday season.
I wonder about your comment... Did anyone teach you to did someone teach you to make an excerpt of what was written? I see these kinds of comments more often and with the exception of the last part I don't find it very personal.
Provocative? That's probably what it is for those who read it and I think it's good to think about this although I must also admit that I don't think much will change because I see around me how Christmas is celebrated. As soon as the clock strikes, Christmas is over then everything is back to normal. I think a good example is the ceasefire during wars.
Yeah I took up a little course sometime this year on constructive criticism and appreciate, I also listen to a lot of audio books such as “How to win friends and influence people”, “Be Water My Friend - Bruce Lee” and many more which have really influenced my way of perception and understanding, although sometimes it may feel too formal to even me so I try to be friendly as much as I can in my comments and interactions with people and not rely only on what I’ve learnt.
Personally, Christmas doesn’t feel like how it used to anymore even in my very own family house, the idea of sharing family warmth during this season as grown cold as the year pass by. We can all just try individually to keep the spirit and the main cause of Christmas going with or without the label on it.
This is just a lot. I am still trying to fathom your state of mind when writing all these. All I can say is, it's a lot.
It's a lot and there's no need to answer. My state of mind is fine. I just type what I bumped into and read during the day and add my opinion/thoughts. Don't worry, there's more.
Wow. I want to assume that you are one hell of a deep thinker too...