Anytime you're telling someone what you don't want you're really telling them what you've had. And someone might say,
![](https://steemitimages.com/DQmVDrJVgqC7DFcWMQyBdBxEBx9Be6nKgqL2SqVLkhjGMzS/yeay.jpg)
Fine, but that's kind of disingenuous because you don't want a lot of things. You don't want a serial killer but you don't list that on your profile. You choose to list something very specific so what you're really saying is,
![](https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://steemitimages.com/DQmTWejoExrsGeFrV2wtHoN5eihw9uPnpTbFC4fFBUTSjX8/this.jpg)
It is much more impactful and put you in a much more attractive light to talk about what you do want. What you're excited about. So instead, she could say,
"Looking for someone else who's excited about the idea of building a real connection. That shows I have standards and I'm just a bloody delight to be around."
Framing something in the positive like that is so much better than listing the things you don't want which only shows your baggage.
Resteem