Interesting that your family cared so much more and thought you ruined her childhood. Did you ask them why that was? Once I became a parent myself, I realized how important it was for me to have the correct answers to life's questions...and to not look like a hypocrite in the process. Truth discovery has become a big deal in my life for that reason. With that comes truth-telling. Unfortunately many people do not feel the same. Kudos to you being honest.