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A LETTER TO MY FUTURE HUBBY!

Dear future hubby, I'm not yet sure whether you exist, though I'd like to believe that you do. While it may not make much logical sense, you've been on my mind lately. I haven't thought much about what you'll look like, how tall you'll be, or whether you'll be short _ I'm not too concerned with the minor details. However, I have been thinking about a few things I want you to know.
I want you to know that I'm happy right now, I love my career (writing career), I love my crazy few friends and my family and I love spending quality time alone either reading or writing.
I want you to know that my life has purpose apart from and before you. When we do meet one day, I want you to understand that I do not expect you to complete me, or to be my God. That's way too much pressure for any one to bear😁😂😂. I'm already complete!

I want you to know that I not a trophy. Apparently, a lot of guys think this is a compliment, you know to finally win the heart of a beautiful and hard-to-get woman(Just ask Kanye West 😂).
However, I want you to know that I have no desire to be seen as a trophy _ a symbol of your own perceived success. I was not raised just to sit and look pretty on someone's shelf. I want to have intellectual conversations. I want to help you chase your dreams. I want to be your partner, not your prize.
Maybe one day, I'll decide to take on the onerous yet rewarding task of being a stay-at-home Mom. Either way, I'll be "Working". I am hopeful that you and I will be able to come up with a solution that works best for our relationship, and for our future family, free from societal expectation.

I hope that you will love me whether I decide to wear my hair long or short. I hope that you will think I am beautiful whether I choose to walk around with a fresh face or eyes adorned with mascara. If we choose to have children, I hope that you appreciate my body post-pregnancy just as much as you did the day we met.

I want you to know that I am not concerned with the size of my future engagement ring and I will never pressure you to propose. Sure I've thought about those things. You have to understand that between Facebook and instagram posts, I'm inundated daily with images of blushing brides and fairy tale weddings. But at the end of the day, my goal is not to get married but to stay married. If you promise to be my best friend for life, I promise not to get caught up in all the wedding madness.

I want you to know that when we do fall on love, I will love you unconditionally. I don't expect you to be perfect and I can guarantee you that I won't be either. I do, however, expect you to accept me fully for who I really am and I promise to do the same for you.

And wherever you are, are you smoking?😏😏, you better stop it already and listen. I won't kiss a black and burnt lips and my kids last night in my dream told me that they want a daddy Who will always wake them with a kiss every morning, and you think they would be happy to kiss a smoker's lip??

And listen lastly darling, if you will always need that early morning passionate kiss, Just know that you will never have to fail to brush your teeth every night before you go to bed, because I hate to pew😂😂.
But hey darling, I will never try to change you. I will never let you feel unseen, and I will always be your number one fan.

Yours Truly,

Perfectly, imperfect Me!!