Hi @phoneinf Lovely your post. I thing that It all depends on perspective.

Selfish people take. Selfless people give. Selfish people make life harder for others, while selfless people make life more pleasurable for those around them. This is how many of us distinguish between “selfish” and “selfless,” and most people would rather be perceived as the latter. Generally speaking, “selfless” gets a warmer welcome and is more widely accepted as good. I challenge both generalizations. Neither selfishness nor selflessness is good or bad. In fact, the two concepts are inextricably linked, not opposites, as their definitions imply.

I believe we are all selfish that even the choice to be selfless stems from a selfish place, either because you enjoy helping others, because it supports the image that you have of who you want to be, or because you get something out of it.

Many of us are unwilling to admit it, but we want to be liked and accepted. Sometimes we do things hoping they will lead others to accept us. Other times, we act without thinking about the reception our decisions will get and just hope that we will be accepted anyway. When you are a Powerful Person in a Partnership, you are both selfish and selfless, because you are true to yourself while also accepting truth, even when you don’t like it.

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