THE HEARTBREAK

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Have you felt or are you feeling the pain of an emotional breakup of a couple? Or you are simply watching a friend go through this and it is very likely that you feel a vacuum, which can lead to longing and melancholy.

After a break, there is a grieving process (a bit strong) that is part of the therapeutic experience of emotional healing in overcoming a wound. And tell me, how do you define your situation?

In general, there are a series of stages of heartbreak that explain what is felt during the process.


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Stages of heartbreak:

At first, the break brings with it a psychological impact. And, even in those cases in which there were already signs that the relationship was not on the right track, the final end produces an impact because it highlights the reality of the farewell. At this stage, the affected also feels the vital disorientation for a chapter of his life that closes and a new cycle that is still to be written.

Faced with this duality of past and future, it is possible to experience contradictory feelings of longing for what was left behind and curiosity about that new future horizon. The person can even feel angry about what happened, an anger that is a form of denial of their own reality.

However, the duel is overcome when the protagonist assumes his own responsibility in what happened and accepts the story as it has been. In fact, in a rupture there is always responsibility on both sides, do not you think?


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The importance of the first year after the break:

The first year after the breakup of a stable relationship is especially significant, because it is on this date when such nostalgic days as the couple's anniversary, birthdays or Christmas parties are celebrated.

The sadness that you live in a lack of love is a natural feeling, however, it is important not to dramatize this pain. The sadness of the lack of love can lead to a depression when the person is positioned before this situation as a victim.

Those people who associate the idea of happiness with being in a relationship can suffer in an irrational way in the face of loneliness. If this is your case, it is very important that you reflect on your own personal beliefs so as not to prolong ideas that limit you in your personal development.


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Positive attitude towards heartbreak:

Your attitude is more important than external circumstances. You can find a constructive meaning to a heartbreak if you can focus on a present goal that excites you. For example, your professional development can be an incentive for you, if you find at this moment a good opportunity to boost your career.

If you need help after the break, you can also do therapy online. That is, an online psychologist can help you boost introspection at this time.


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Such a wonderful post @eliarenas. The breakdown of how heartache works with the suggestions of turning the negative into a positive, very well done. I really like that you even suggest to do some internal reflection if it is still affecting you after so long.
Keep up the great posts!!

@tryskele Thank you very much! It is and should be, always turning the negative into the positive. Very soon other posts! Greetings.

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Hello @eliarenas, I liked your post because it touches a topic that most human beings have gone through and that is a topic that will never go out of style. Important not to fall in front of the failures of love and as well posed your post, try to balance the sentimental part with the professional part, for example.


Greetings.

HAHAHA great meme @cjao20 Greetings!

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