I can completely relate to that feeling. I never felt at home on Reddit. It always felt like an all-or-nothing kinda place, and I was never prepared to invest a lot of time getting my head around it all.
While Steemit is similar in many ways, I think the community here is very welcoming. I felt very new when I started 2 weeks ago and I've already made some real friends.
Give it a whirl. I think you'll do OK once you're being sincere and engaging.