i guess sometimes just we are given what we need

Oh yeah, I've heard that comforting phrase too. But my case was that I was given something that I wanted for a very long time, years, but when I no longer wanted it because I had developed a new survival strategy. And not because: You need this thing right now. But it feels like: Now I will give you this thing years late, when you no longer want it, to see that life can suck more than you can imagine. And also at the expense of this I will take something else from you, for example health, because nothing is free in this life, even when you get something that you no longer want.
And yes, my GP is a wise woman. No one would expect to have such conversations in a doctor's office. But this is when the health system and the people in it are powerless to deal with so many common diseases. Here.