#60 - This is what it should be........

This is very true and what it should be if you want a good relationship or a good marriage. When both work together everything can be better. Put God first, your husband or wife then your family. Hopefully, you will meet your true love and build a good relationship. May God Bless All of You !!!!

• Don’t shout at your wife/husband when you are talking. It really hurts her/him. It takes two people to have an argument. If we will look here, we see that we must answer softly. The worst thing we can do is pout and not talk. Perhaps, we should silently pray a few minutes and then answer quietly. Screaming never accomplishes anything. It just causes a fight. Angry words bring angry words in return. The first thing you know, there are problems difficult to settle, because everyone has said too much. The best way is to stay calm and talk quietly. (Proverbs 15:1)

• Do not share your wife love or affection with another woman. It called Adultery. The Bible says, whatever is in our hearts will come out of our mouth. We cannot speak both good and evil, because sweet and bitter water does not come from the same well. Whatever is in our hearts is what we really are. (Matthew 5:28)

• Never compare your wife/husband to another woman/man. If the other woman/man was good for you, God would have given her/him to you. (2 Corinthians 10:12)

• Don’t ever allow your wife/husband to beg you for sex. She/ He owns your body just as you own her/his body. The reason it is so important for the husband and wife to sleep together. This is just saying for the two to comfort each other. They are not to refuse the closeness of husband and wife. (1 Corinthians 7:5)

• Be gentle and accommodating. She/ He has sacrificed so much to be with you. It hurts her/him deeply when you are harsh and irritating. Be tender. “Forbearing one another in love”: Humility, gentleness and patience are reflected in a forbearing love for others that is continuous and unconditional (Ephesians 4:2)

• Hide nothing from your wife/husband. You are now one and she’s your helpmeet. Let there be no secret you are keeping from her/him. The order we should put our lives in is: God first, husband or wife next, and then other members of the family (Genesis 2:25)

• Do not make negative comment about your wife or do anything to harm her. She is a living soul, not just flesh and blood. When she needs strength, gives her strength. When she needs encouragement, give her that. And so with every other thing she needs. The blessed marriage is the marriage in which the husband loves his wife with unlimited caring. Do not let her body determine her worth. Cherish and appreciate her even till old age. (Ephesians 5:29)

• Never shout at your wife in the privacy and in private. If you have an issue to sort with her, do it in the privacy of your room. (Matthew 1:19)

• Thank and appreciate your wife/husband for taking good care of you, the kids and the house. It is a great sacrifice she/he is making. “In every” event or circumstance (thing), the Christian is to “give thanks” to God for the good. He can bring out of the event, even should the event be unpleasant. The constant attitude of prayer (mentioned in verse 17), will help the believer to maintain gratitude in the face of adversity. Notice that even the bad things that happen to us, are the will of God for that moment. Troubles come to teach us to lean more on Jesus. Every problem that we overcome through faith in Him, makes us stronger than we were before. Knowing all of this, how can we do less than to praise Him in all things and at all times. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

• All women cannot cook the same way, appreciate your wife’s food. It is not easy to cook two/three meals every day. Excellent women would go far to secure the best food for their families. (Proverbs 31:14)

• Never place your siblings before your wife. She is your wife. She is one with you. She must come before your family. God’s ideal plan for marriage is one man for one woman for one lifetime. A mutually supportive attitude must characterize both husband and wife if they are to succeed in building a harmonious home. (Genesis 2:24)

• Invest seriously in your wife spiritual growth. Love wants only the best for the one it loves, and it cannot bear for a loved one to be corrupted or misled by anything evil or harmful. When a husband’s love for his wife is like Christ’s love for His church, he will continually seek to help purify her from any sort of defilement. He will seek to protect her from the world’s contamination and protect her holiness, virtue, and purity in every way. He will never induce her to do that which is wrong or unwise or expose her to that which is less than good. (Ephesians 5:26)

• Spend time with your wife/husband to do Bible study and pray. “Confess your faults”: Mutual honesty, openness and sharing of needs will enable believers to uphold each other in the spiritual struggle. (James 5:16)

• Make time to play with your wife and enjoy her company. The best arrangement is for one man and one woman to become one flesh and live that way until one of them dies. This is a peaceful, contented life. Colossians 3:19 "Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them." (Ecc 9:9)

• Never use money to manipulate or control your wife. She is a joint heir with you of the grace of God. Marriage, in the sense of the world, is a contract to live together and raise a family. It is a contract to be physically one. They two are one flesh. In the sense of the believers, marriage is a holy union. The marriage symbolizes the relationship with Christ and His church. God wants husbands and wives (on the earth), to act as a single unit. Pulling apart gets you nowhere. Working together gets the job done. (1 Pet 3:7)

• Never cease to tell your wife how much you love her all the days of her life. Women are never tired of hearing that. It is certainly intended for a husband to admire and be attracted by his wife’s beauty, winsomeness, kindness, gentleness, or any other positive quality or virtue. But though such things bring great blessing and enjoyment, they are not the bond of marriage. (Eph 5:25)

• Grow to be like Christian, that’s the only way you can be a good and godly husband. We are part of the family of God, because our elder brother (God's only begotten Son), purchased our right to be called God's sons. (Rom 8:29)

Thanks for reading !!