confession story. #29

NOTE: May be its long,But do read it once and share your fear.If you have time,otherwise you can ignore it :)

Topic: FEAR

Fear is an interesting emotion. We all feel it, we all don't invite it but we all enjoy it somehow. If there was no fear, there was no fun in living this life. Maybe, that's why we go on a roller-coaster ride or watch horror movies. But I'm talking about real fears and phobias. Yes, they do exist for some reason. Which we fail to see.
We all are mortals and we all are going to die one day. There is no point in fearing the death. It is the ultimate reality which we all know but refuse to believe that it will occur to you. We all are going to lose our loved ones. So, start cherishing the moments that you have with them. Let them know how much you care for them and love them. Life is not about living 100 years or 150 years. If a guy lives for 100 years by just eating, sleeping and having sex. Do you call it a life? No. On the other hand, if a guy experiences everything from love, failure, betrayal, happiness, excitement and curiosity in 25 years and lives a life to the fullest before dying then won't you call it a life?

Don't afraid of failures because failures are the best teachers. People who fear rejection should know one thing that rejection, if taken in a positive way, will make their success immortal because after rejection, you will put everything that you have to succeed. Some people are afraid of being alone but if you learn to enjoy being alone then you will never face loneliness and then it will become a blessing.

Nobody is going to make this life perfect. We all have flaws and we all will make mistakes. Just learn from your mistakes and try to do better, whatever you do. That's how success is achieved. Keep exploring, keep discovering new things and keep making your life adventurous.
People fear of falling in love again. That's only because of their past experiences. It's not that they fear love, it's the fear of losing the love or getting betrayed. See, life is nothing without love and it is worth the pain. Go, fall in love and get hurt. That's what life is.
Fear of judgement. People are going to judge you no matter how good you are. They will judge you for your colour, religion, cast, social status, money and blah blah blah. Don't let them affect you or your confidence. Be a good human being. Be good to yourself. They know you for a brief time but you know yourself since birth. People even judge the almighty and we are mere human beings. So, it's okay.

Fear of oblivion is okay because you have no idea what may fear you. What may come next. If you are always sure of what will happen next then, maybe, life wouldn't be fun at all. So, enjoy this fear. One day you will find all your answers. Do not find yourself in the universe. You are a universe in yourself. God's and demons reside in yourself. Just choose, which of these twos do you want to bring out.

Fear arranged marriages? It's maybe because of the experiences that you have had with your parents, neighbours and relatives. We all fear marriage because it demands change and we fear change not marriage. We fear sharing our whole life with someone else. And that's okay. If you don't want to get married then please do not get married. Don't simply do anything which doesn't make you happy. You will ruin your whole life. Trust me on this. Convince your family and take a stand. I have seen many successful arranged marriages and very disappointing love marriages but I would like you to make your own mistake rather than suffering for someone else's wrong judgement.
Fear of ignorance is also a big fear. Well, those who ignore you, don't deserve you. And sorry for my language but they deserve a middle finger salute.

People will tell you to be fearless but I will suggest you to fear-less. There is no fun in living a life where you are not afraid of anything. Because then you will do wrong things. This world is a beautiful place because there exists fear. So, let this world be a beautiful place but don't let your fears overpower your beliefs. Embrace fear to defeat it.

P. s: I fear hurting people. And I know that I can't escape life without hurting people. But I make sure that I hurt lesser people in life. Because I believe that life is about being happy without hurting anyone. Still, I hurt people unintentionally.

And for those, who fear lizard, flying cockroaches and snakes; consult a psychologist.
#gatsby