What is SELF-LOVE?

jojoandbel (37)in #steem • 7 years ago (edited)

The beautiful girl you see on the magazine, your crush in class/work who seems to be perfect and then there's you, yourself

Have you ever questioned if you love yourself the same way you love those people?
This is a probably cheesy, cliche blog post but I believe if you can truly love someone fully you got to love yourself first.

For me these are the 4 steps to of how I learned to love myself:

STEP 1: Letting yourself hurt

Dark places are the places where we discover we have our own light. I strongly believe that bottling up your pain will NEVER solve issues or let you move on from bad experiences & such.

Yes, we need to learn how to let our pain hurt us because pain for me is like when we take a shit- if we keep that shit in we will be poisoned but by letting ourselves shit we let go of shit.

Whatever experiences you have had are with you for a reason. Let the pain flow through. Let the wound bleed so the pain you have towards yourself will bleed and leave you too.

STEP 2: Love those flaws like Beyonce

Insecurities are endless monsters that will creep up to our bed every time. We don't need to let those monsters hunt us though. Imperfections make us US, so yes whether you know it or not it makes us lovable.

If everyone was perfect in this world, it would be boring asf. We need a world with real people not carbon copies who - are on the search for perfection- something that doesn't exist.

Look at the mirror and say all the things you like about yourself. You are you and when you're true to who you really are you are the most beautiful.

STEP 3: Build your CONFIDENCE

This has got to be one of the hardest steps here. Confidence is something hard to build but with persistence and tenacity we can get to that point where we can be proud of ourselves.

Go out to the world and realize how big it is. There are 7 billion plus of us. We have the freedom, opportunity to do something we can be proud of- we need to realize our skills and appreciate ourselves more.

There's a reason why we are all born with dreams
We're meant to go after them because when we take the chance to go after things we want no matter how hard
We come to a point where we love ourselves more than other's opinions.

STEP 4: (Last but not he least) Be YOU and DO what you WANT

We reach the highest level of freedom when we love ourselves enough to know that we can achieve anything we want to achieve.

After I have went through my own hardships I now know that anything can be achieved when we love ourselves and put the effort to exert who we are regardless of any obstacles and people who dare to bring us down.

Loving yourself is more important, all the more so in chasing after your goals and doing things you love. Put your hand on your heart and repeat to yourself you're worthy of whatever you want in life
because you are YOURSELF and true to WHO YOU ARE
its the most important step of self love.