Today we were gathered among our colleagues from the office, we remembered what we experienced at the wedding party that we had a few days ago, we remembered the good moments as well as the NOT so good ones, at one point we cornered one of our colleagues to expose him to what we believed was incorrect regarding his behavior.
In the middle of this, different criticisms have arisen towards different people and their behavior at the party and in the middle of the conversation someone said: But in the end it's not so bad to receive criticism. . . And this has made me reflect on criticism, that when we talk about criticism it is not all bad or negative.
People can say anything to other people but in the end the importance of the words or criticism that we receive only we authorize, that is: They can tell us anything but only we allow or not allow those words to impact us. we. Criticism is also very important since it often allows us to see those things that we cannot see about ourselves, criticism can be revealing.
Here the main point is the source of the criticism for example: If we receive criticism at work and that person is known for being too negative towards most people, consider that their opinion is not really objective. It is very different to receive criticism or comments from a person who supports you than to receive comments or criticism from a person who is only looking at the glass half empty all the time.
What should I do when I receive criticism? A very practical case when someone criticizes you, instead of responding immediately, it is advisable to take a very deep breath and mentally count to 10, this gives us precious time to be able to think and avoid reacting impulsively, that is very important since it helps us avoid unnecessary conflicts.
Another tip or recommendation to also take advantage of criticism is to ask ourselves questions and mainly ask ourselves: what can I learn from this? When we receive criticism instead of doing what we usually do, that is: taking it badly, we can ask ourselves if there is something of value in that criticism. This can allow us to radically improve our performance; even if it is a baseless criticism, we simply let it pass.
We understand that criticism can be used as something destructive (I open parentheses, it is generally like this) or we can take it as an element that allows us to grow, develop and mature, criticism has no weight on ourselves, only we allow each word to influence in our lives then: if you receive criticism you should ask yourself what you can learn from it, take a few minutes and breathe deeply, holding your breath for up to 10 seconds, this will allow you to gain time to reflect and let go of many things that we may regret. . Let's also not forget to investigate and know the source of the criticism we receive. If we suddenly receive criticism from characters on social networks, let's not take it personally, let's remember that through these media most people do not know each other personally.