HEALING YOUR INNER CHILD

I recently stayed at a very cute air b and b in the Isle of White and they had a trampoline, of course the child that I am couldn't resist having fun. It got me thinking about our inner child and how far we digressed from living in the now, and being able to spontaneously process emotions as they came up.

When we are children we are in a constant state of theta which, means things go directly to our subconcious. Most of what we do and say after that is triggered by the programmes we picked up during our childhood years. When you are triggered, angry or upset it isn't anything to do with the present moment but some wound you felt as a child that you are subconciously reacting to in the now. For example, say when you were a child at some ponit you felt abandoned by a parent, anytime you feel someone is leaving you in adult life you will feel those wounds of abandonment surface and you will have a hard time letting anyone go. If someone leaves you, you will feel as if your world is falling apart. Maybe you felt bullied or not good enough as a child and those wounds will be present in all situations you enter into as an adult unless you address them and bring witness to their source. I think it was Ram Dass who said there are millions of potential triggers that happen every single day but you will only hook onto the ones that you are emotionally connected to. This is why often times something can really annoy or upset you that your friend or partner barely even notices, because all our wounds are unique and whenever we have an emotional reaction to a situation it is always our wounds driving this and not the situation itself.

When you really want to live a more present experience without the fear of the future and limitations of the past that these wounds bring, it's time to start the process of integrating the triggers and healing our inner child at the original wound. The first and most important step to integrate triggers, is to be aware of them, to be a strong witness with a lot of humility and honesty. In every situation try to observe it as if from an outside perspective, this can take some time, especially if the emotional reaction is still strong. If the emotions are strong it will probably need to be integrated after the event but eventually you can get to the stage you can process things as they occur because you are so aware of how you respond to things and your core wounds.

The other important factor is to not fall into the trap of being a 'victim' to the situation. It's very easy when you feel hurt, upset and angry to feel the victim and blame others for your emotional reaction. No-one is responsbile for your emotions but yourself, whatever anyone else does you can still come from a place of love and you can still be in charge of your own emotional reaction to each sitatuation. Once you begin to witness why you respond in the way you do you will be able to then be present to the feelings and witness them without attaching to them, accpeting them without judgment of being right or wrong. It's not wrong to feel any way you do, you don't have to slam yourself for still having the feelings or think it's bad you still feel reactional to certain life situations, the more you can accept them and allow them, the quicker they can pass through you. Eventually you will get to the place where you can thank even very painful experiences for the soul agreement and opportunity they bought to your life to evolve and to integrate your ego. Try to find your heart centre in painful situations and trust the higher plan you have chosen for your awakening journey <3