Haha, I totally get that! Conversations between two "representatives" of completely different consciousness have a strong tendency to become void of misunderstandings. Why? Because the words we use are merely a reflection of our inner world, experiences and insights, not more. It gives the proverb "talk is silver, silence is golden" a whole new meaning when we become aware of these different perspectives.
One of my favorites: "Stop thinking"= being "dead from the neck up" 😃 you get what I mean?😃

But exactly as you said: sometimes we say something absolutely ok from OUR perspective, yet the other person has some internal past linked to this term and naturally re-acts from that position.

I had to learn this a lot myself, and again and again I decided to say something in these situations until I finally understood that Silence is the best way, except somebody else wants to hear my stance.☺