I didn't know your gender when I read this, and actually assumed you were a woman. I can see previous concerns in the comments about it appearing that you are "giving" permission, but based on my opinion and perception of the article, as well as the added context you gave from a Nigerian perspective, i thought this was a very feminist perspective you gave. You acknowledged that it was society that has shaped them to feel this way, and that they should realize the construct is a lie and that there is nothing wrong about it. It's important I think to recognize that feminism and sex positivity may mean different things in different countries, and that some countries are in different places regarding those things. I hope the restrictive attitude around sex in Nigeria changes quickly and that women are allowed to confidently and freely voice both when they want and don't want it, and are respected in turn. Thanks for sharing!