I don't know if it's something normal for you but it happens to me very often that I begin to talk to myself in a bizarre way of explaining things to me and many times of even trying to make me see reason.

Many times when we go through different situations we tend to lose a bit of control of our emotions and even our reasoning, that's why begin to make questionable decisions and it is perhaps at that moment when we try to straighten our course of action, when we usually have talks with ourselves. And it is not only in those moments when those talks appear, since many times while we try to analyze something or simply to devise something we tend to subconsciously speak alone.

But beyond the situations where we speak alone or with ourselves, what really should draw our attention is whether it is really wrong to do so, or if it is simply a subconscious act without the slightest consequence.

So, it's okay or not to talk alone?

Although many times this unconscious act is observed in children, it is usually only a reflection of the innocence of children who create situations of that kind to feel better and not feel trapped when they are often repressed.

It should be noted that most children tend to implement this type of trend as a more than valid means of knowing themselves, letting their own subconscious mind help them make decisions, manifesting their subconscious so that it is like a conversation with someone else.

In children, this type of tendency is considered under the concept of private speech.

The private speech, it's the oral expression of our thoughts and is a very useful and beneficial habit for the cognitive development of children.

This type of auto conversations, as I said earlier, is very helpful for the substantial development of children's minds, since it helps them establish a better development of reasoning and other cognitive processes.

However, and although it seems strange in most cases, with adults exactly the same thing happens, speaking alone is a reflection of the various layers of our mind working at the same time as they develop a better rapport, and this can be beneficial if it is used correctly; but do not get me wrong, I do not mean that always and on any occasion it is okay to talk alone, because if it is a consequence of some pathology it is at that moment when the thing becomes serious and strange.

Continuing with what I said, if we analyze a little, every time we have to solve a problem or simply when we try to develop an idea we do it through words and mental sentences, something that could well be said is just thinking, but do we have we stopped to analyze that at that moment we also talk with ourselves ?. So being sincere, is it so strange that those thoughts and ideas are manifested out loud while we are alone?

At the moment a great amount of investigations has been realized referring to the determination of the advantages of these tendencies.

According to the psychologist Laura E. Berk, the private speech mechanism never disappears totally. Since it tends to appear in situations where people find themselves in problems or in contradictory scenarios, which makes this "tool" a very effective habit when developing new skills and abilities.

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If it's not bad, then what benefits does it have to speak alone?

As I explained a few paragraphs ago, adopting this habit from a very young age is one of the main causes for generating significant cognitive skills that over the years will be developed and will be very useful.

Some of the capacities that can be benefited through the application of private speech are:

Better memory development.

It is more than obvious that when we repeat the things we want to learn or memorize, we tend to do it faster, and as I said in one of my previous posts on improving learning, one of the most used techniques to learn quicker; is to talk to the mirror and write what we already know because in this way we strengthen our ideas and improve the fixation of memories.

Make better decisions.

Every time we face complicated situations, we often tend to act on impulse and that usually brings us severe consequences. That is why when we meditate, reorder and organize our ideas before acting, it will always be better when facing any situation. And tell me if you do not usually ask yourself if it's okay to do something or not.

It is an action guide.

If at the time of executing an action, we repeat the necessary steps as we progress through the task, this will undoubtedly improve our level of motion. Something similar to what surgeons do in operations, who, while executing a procedure, discuss each step they take with the other doctors that are present to teach them and so that this often serves as confirmation to know that they are doing well.

Strengthening our motivation.

One of the greatest benefits that speaking alone offers us is that of motivating ourselves, in a certain way it would be like giving ourselves courage and bravery to try new things. Also to encourage us to take actions that although we do not want are necessary.

It makes us smarter.

While I was gathering information on this topic, I came across that there are different investigations that support the possibility that private speech or self-talk, can benefit the generation of new connections and neural networks in our brain. Which basically means that it promotes in a certain way the development of our mind, making that little by little we can become more intelligent, besides helping to improve some of our faculties.

Other benefits.

It should be noted that among other benefits include:

• Help reduce anxiety and stress generated by uncomfortable situations.
• Increase our creativity.
• It puts us leads to discarding wrong or harmful thoughts.
• It considerably increases our decision making.

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However, despite all the positive aspects, when do you have to worry?

Beyond the incredible benefits, we could get as a result of speaking alone, there will always be that big little BUT. And one of the most significant buts, is if this trend appears as a result of some external disorder, that is, while most people use this as a tool, there will always be cases where this habit is presented as something that is contaminating us and making us drastically change our personality, in addition to severely affecting our reasoning.

When we go from talking alone subconsciously and being aware that we do it, to speak alone only because we really think that we talk to someone else is there when this habit becomes a symptom of some psychiatric disorder.

One of the most common cases is when a person has some type of psychosis, where the person not only speaks alone but also has hallucinations and delusions of behavior. Generally in these cases talking alone is only a response mechanism to believe that hallucinations are real, which in turn is accompanied by great delusions where logic is totally lost.

It should be noted that one of the situations, where private speech or self-talking is extremely harmful, is when it is combined with depressive feelings since it is in this type of situation where this tendency turns totally against us and is nothing more than a tool to stab ourselves.

In conclusion to speak alone or with yourself, nothing should be frowned upon or cause a problem, on the contrary, there are many benefits, however as everything in life when taken to the extreme it usually becomes a weapon against ourselves and more if it is accompanied by some pathology or psychological disorders.

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References.

• Self talk - Psychologytoday
• How you talk to yourself matters - Forbes
• We All Talk To Ourselves - Psychologytoday
• 4 Common Types of Self-Talk - Mindful
• People Who Talk To Themselves Aren't Crazy, They're Actually Geniuses - Elite daily

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