Cultural Myths About Love
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TThe worst thing about cultures is that there are always some myths involved in them that are far from reality and absolutely do not make sense in real life. One such topic that is usually surrounded by myths in virtually all the cultures is love. These myths have ruined a number of relationships just because the people involved in them had unrealistic expectations from love. And if there was any hope left, it was killed by the fancy world of entertainment - movies and TV shows. They show such a dreamy picture of love that the real love fails to meet the expectations of people. I am trying to explain some of these common myths below.
- The Myth of Automatically Finding "The One"
The most common myth about love is the existence of "the one" for everybody. This is as untrue as fairy tales are in real life. All the myths related to this term are like poison for relationships. It is often believed that you will immediately know when you will meet "the one" who is going to be your soulmate. Yes, you can be attracted to someone within a moment and that attraction can be pretty strong but it certainly doesn't mean that he can be your life partner. This attraction is usually just sexual in nature (or romantic in fancy terms) and choosing a life partner is much more work than just feeling romantic about a person. You need to know a lot of other things about the person to make him your life partner and most of those things aren't related to romance.
The problem with falling in love is that you are only able to see the good in that person and those good things may or may not be real. You need a lot of time and observation to know what really is real. And even if that person possesses all those qualities, he doesn't necessarily have that strength of character to go all the way with you.
Another thing that starts to matter more, in the long run, is how well does the person you love get along with your family and circle of friends because you can't just ignore everybody that has been with you all your life just to be with the one person you now love. Is he comfortable with giving you your personal space or does he tend to own every bit of your space? This fact alone can be a game changer for any relationship.
In order to spend all your life with somebody, you and your lover must accept both good and bad in each other. Nobody can be right in all situations. Both of you need to ask yourselves if you are comfortable with showing your dark sides to each other and if both of you can easily handle when the other person is wrong. It is very important to leave no trace of ego and grudges in your relationship before you take it to the next lever.