If you were to replace the perspective of "Nationality" instead of "Religion". I think your perspective might improve.

You see it is akin to be American, we have certain right and restrictions. Some might seem intrusive to a few, but a certain amount of restraint is required to maintain the American experiment in what has become known today as "Freedom".

Likewise in the "Nationalists" who deny certain rights and freedoms. They might seem way off base and you might think that they are just wrong because of your indoctrination in how you were raised. Your traditions, your perspective and even the way in which you think has been encouraged to follow a certain path. That path you walk is like the standard in which you live. The Authority or power of persuasion as well as perspective is the Sovereignity in that walk.

I also have tried the "urch" (purposely misspelled as a breaking sound and "stop church") and was asked to leave every one for some of the same reasons you shared. We can not reason together with the religious, because they are mostly unreasonable in their abstract metaphors, symbolism and western philosophies which are all alien to the thinking in ancient times. But what I have done is gone all the way back to the most original writings that I could find and in the original language often titled as "Paleo Hebrew" a moniker not supported by the Authors, but are of a Jewish tradition so are in my eyes moot, is most astonishing.

So I am learning the language / tongue and what revelations I have found boggles the mind. No translation in "scripture" is even close to the original. Much dogma, religious propaganda as well as pagan traditions have found their way into this treasure in Sovereign Wisdom. They have corrupted it so much that the two do not even resemble each other.

So in closing let me say that I am not a religious man, but my Lifestyle emulates that ancient path in which we are instructed to walk by our Sovereign Creator who I have learned to call Yahuah. His Nation / Family of people are bound to his Sovereign Rule and they abide in him because he has their best interest as his primary objective. They are called by his name "Bni Yahuah" (Sons / Daughters of "GOD"). I seek not the wisdom of mankind but from my Creator alone, for in him all truth is established, his wisdom is unsurpassed and he never changes.

May Yahuah bless you as you search and may he show you his way,
Eliyahu Ben YHWH
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