Divorce is not the Solution

I think the average couple in today’s world has thought about divorce at least once during their marriage(I’m no exception)….. Myself & hubby used to throw that word carelessly in each others faces in our early years, whenever we were at loggerheads with each other but maturity has changed a lot of things round now…. But, for some, divorce is a constant threat!! Couples need to learn that the word “divorce” should not be used lightly, jokingly or even as a threat…. Don’t even think it, until & unless it becomes absolutely essential & necessary!!
Often you hear spouses say “I’m getting divorced because i am not in love with him/her anymore” But, getting divorced because love has died is like abandoning your house because the lawn has dried up or abandoning your car because it has run out of gas…. Most couples divorce because of trivial & preventable causes in a lot of divorce cases… Most divorcees who remarry often experience the same situations that caused their previous divorce because they didn’t bother to try & sort out the root cause of their previous marital issues before opting for a divorce & soon after jumping into a new relationship….
Divorce is not the solution to a troubled marriage, true unconditional love is the solution!! Just like buying a house or a car, anyone who enters into marriage commits themselves to an endless upkeep project…. Getting married is just the beginning of a lifelong commitment to remain unconditionally loving till death do us part… Anyone who enters marriage without the solid commitment to remaining unconditionally loving is setting a marriage time bomb!!
However, divorce can be justified if a partner chooses to end the marriage, you cannot force them to stay married… Also, if a partner is excessively adulterous, abusive, addictive & abandoning…. In other words, if they are serial cheaters, hitting or putting you down(domestic & emotional abuse), an alcoholic or drug addict or has left you for someone else… A lot of married couples who have almost given up on finding the love they have lost, need to realise, they can find what is missing without having to start all over again with someone else, all it takes is a change of PERCEPTION!!