RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP 2 - LIFE STORY
When I penciled down my thought on this topic yesterday, little did I know that someone close to me was going through strong emotional disturbance as a result of relationship breakup.
Dele (not real name) walked into my office this morning and narrated his ordeal in the last 8 months that his wife travelled abroad.
Dele and his wife got married couple of years ago and were blessed with a beautiful girl who clock 3 years this January.
Dele was working in another town of about 45 kilometers away from where he settled his family after marriage only that he comes home every weekend. This schedule was on for about two years before he also decided to relocate and stay with his wife.
This couple began to struggle to make ends meet and they were able to achieve little. While the economy bite harder, they both agreed that the wife should travel abroad with the intention that the man will come over later to join which is the practice this side of the world.
It worked out that this lady left with their daughter, hardly had she settled that she began to send wrong signals to her husband.
- She decided to marry a Canadian man.
- She blocked the man on all her social media links.
- Already pregnant for the Canadian
- Told her first husband never to refer to the baby girl as his daughter, that its all over between them.
This man has involved both parents in this matter and all they could offer him was to be patience.
What would you advice him to do please.
The yoruba adage says
(It is only the wife of a "lazy" man that one can collect, no one dares take his child)
The man should fight for his child, the daughter will appreciate him for life. If he let go of the child now, it might break the spirit of the daughter. This will pass a subtle message to the daughter that "she is not worth fighting for".
Dele go get your daughter.
Thanks for sharing sir.
Thanks @hpabiola for this brave advice. What if he wanted his wife back can't he also go his wife. Nice day.
His wife???
That appellation of wife is debatable. she made the conscious decision to marry a Canadian already.
He should not get stuck with "endowment effect", the woman had already moved on. The earlier he realizes this, the better for HIM.
Hummm