RE: Real Talk #2 - The Pain Of Loving A Toxic Parent
I think that this is a very difficult topic to talk to and you would get different replies from people who have loving parents and from people who have similar issues like you.
I agree with you that parenting is not born with a child. It is a skill that needs to be learned. Some of us are better, others need a little more guidance in it. I also truly believe that some people don't have parenthood in their 'veins'. What I want to say is that even though they do their best it simply doesn't come out the way they would love to.
I am sorry to hear about the situation that you're facing with your parents. Myself, I didn't have the best childhood either so I can understand your feeling. I do wish that you relationship with them becomes better over time and that you will love them and be loved by them.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Have a nice day and congratulations on your curie vote!
I think it goes back to how your parents were parented in their childhood. What I mean by that is they are likely to have picked up on the qualities that their parents had which they are now reflecting upon us.
If your grandparents are difficult to deal with, a part of their bad quality was unconsciously and unwantedly adopted by your parents when they were young. The same happens with us too.
And it becomes really difficult to get rid of that bad quality if you don't realize it soon enough as it slowly becomes a part of your personality. That's, I think, one of the main reasons why toxic parents are toxic in the first place.
Thank you for you kind words. Really helps to know that other people are sharing the same problem. I wish you the best :)