How to Raise a Son

Perhaps the title of this book - Raising a Son - caught your eye because you expe ctthe birth of a boy, or because at the present time you have fully experienced for yourself what it means to raise a son, and you already want to climb the highest bell tower in the city and shout with all your lungs: "Help!" The main problem with raising boys is that no one knows how to raise them today. They are on their own in the quest for what it means to be a man in our culture.
"Boys want to know three things," says 72-year-old Lew Power, a veteran boy scout schools, who has been its director for 20 years, - First, who is in charge? Second, what are the rules and regulations? And third, are you going to enforce these norms? In order to build a strong relationship with a boy, you must be in charge and, moreover, very kind. Make only those rules that you can achieve, and enforce those rules unswervingly. Then you have the foundation to build relationships. From here comes respect and, more importantly, trust. After that you can be kind, he will listen to you, because he knows: you are on his side. "
Educatebsons today are much more difficult than ever before. The world has changed a lot: families abandoned authoritarian methods of upbringing, when parents were responsible for everything, decisions were not discussed, and children followed the established rules, almost not resisting them. Louise J. Kashtan, Ph.D., child psychologist and author of many books, describes a typical family in the past in her book “Oneness and Specialty: From Child to Personality”: “When the emotional structure of the family was more defined, children recognized parental authority out of a sense of duty and commitment. ... They adopted clear and unshakable ideals from their parents, which later allowed them to act, although inflexible, but confidently and authoritatively in relation to their own children. "