Spice4Life - Show recap 19 October. Topic Happiness

I said my hello's and did the disclaimer,

Let’s kick off the music with some upbeat feel-good grooves of Sia - Cheap Thrills which was released in 2016 and
Owl City and Carly Rae Jepsen - Good Time a 2012 dance-pop song.

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Next song a classic from 1981, Hold on tight to your dream by ELO - Electric Light Orchestra!

The song went top ten in most countries, hitting the top spot in Spain and Switzerland, number two in Germany, number four in the UK.

My topic is still Happiness!

I am talking to you about happiness and how one can be happy. I am using the site of the happy guru to help me to explain how we can be happy.
The first two steps were:

Next up is a song of Joy Williams - Sunny day! A 2009 Contemporary Christian song.

So today we look at Step 3 Happiness is simply a mental state of well-being created by positive and good emotions.

Real happiness is not caused by outside factors. Sure outside factors can contribute to your happiness,

but if you can’t find a place where your happiness comes from within you will never be truly happy. Quote hope777

After taking the first step and accept that Happiness is a choice and the 2nd step that happiness is an attitude of mind, and working on changing your attitudes from negative to positive you come to the third step you have to learn. That is that Happiness is a state of mind. As you can create your state of mind, you can create your own happiness.
What is a state of mind?

The happy guru says:

A state of mind is a temporary psychological state, the emotional and intellectual content of our mind at a precise moment.

Next Joy with the song Jonny Diaz, released in 2015

Plainly said, it is what is going on in your mind, the thoughts you think and the emotions you create upon that thoughts.

Remember and I am going to say this a lot. You can’t feel without a thought preceding the emotions first. Even if the thought was not conscious like for instance somebody says something to you and immediately you are angry and you reacts by saying something rude in return. You did not first go and think what he is saying makes me now so angry, but there had to be a thought even if it was so fast that your conscious mind was not aware of it. This state of mind then determined how we react to the outside world with different people in different situations.
Your state of mind can be created by outside factors but the most important thing is that your state of mind can be created by yourself.

Next up: REM with Shiny happy people, a 1991 folk rock song.

https://howtobehappy.guru/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/imageedit_41_8947750989

Your state of mind can be good and enabling states like, joy, happiness, love, confidence, beliefs etc or bad and paralysing states like fear, anxiety, depression, sadness etc.
The result of your state of mind comes out in the way you behave. So you can see how your state of mind can influence your whole life positively or negatively.

The way we perceive the world is largely dependent on our inner state of mind. If we are in a bad and negative state…. we see all dark and bad but if we are in a good state, like we are in love, or we are happy about a work promotion, we see all good and we don’t really bother much about anything else. We don’t let anything ruin our state of mind.
Like I said your state of mind can happen without you consciously realising it. You can see or hear something and then react to it going into a state of e.g. anger. Past memories and experiences can also have a big affect on your state of mind. Like hearing a favourite song of a passed loved one can make you go into a sad state of mind.
A good state of mind can be resourceful like when you are playing or doing a task and you are doing it well and making no mistakes. But a bad state of mind will be an unresourceful state when you are struggling to do something and you feel frustrated.

Let's listen to this inspiring song, The Climb by Miley Cyrus from the 2009 movie Hannah Montana and its country pop.
and The Chainsmokers ft. Zayn with I Can Fly, which was released last year.

The important thing is to learn to change our state, from a bad state to a good state, from an unresourceful state to a resourceful state so we can be in control of our life and lives happily. (How to replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts)

If you learn to change your state or mood whenever you are in a bad and unresourceful state then you are not at the mercy of events and our emotions.

How do you change your mood or state of mind?

It is actually very simple and you can really change it in an instant. As soon as you realize that you are in a bad state, the first thing to do is to recognise and acknowledge it. This correlates with emotional intelligence as emotional intelligence is Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. You must be aware of what is happening. You can hold still for a moment and take a deep breath. Then you need to focus on something else.
You can start by using your physical body e.g. go for a walk, just calm yourself concentrate on breathing slowly and deeply. Change your location even just stepping into another room can help.
Then you need to replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Most of the times when we hear or experience something that upset us our thought processes are unrealistic and exaggerating. For instance when your kid comes from school reporting some bullying and you are upset. Your husband comes home and asks: what is wrong?, you burst into tears and says, everything is wrong. Is that actually true? No, it is not. There was an incident at school which upset your kid and yourself and that is what is wrong. Everything else is still fine. The house did not burn down, your kid will be ok, you will be ok. You just have to find a solution. This kind of exaggerating thoughts will do nothing for a good state of mind.

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So next time I will do a whole segment on thinking the right thoughts and positive thoughts instead of exaggerated untrue thoughts and very negative thoughts. That is a big part of creating a good resourceful state of mind.
There will also be more suggestions on how to create a happy state of mind.

Let's listen to some Contemporary R&B by R Kelly, The storm is over now!

Next my bit of support for @familyprotection here on steemit.

I am a proud supporter and also proud to be part of this very important community.
The community of @familyprotection was one year old a few weeks ago. It is still going strong. The community empowers family with very good advice from different authors about how to deal with Child Protection Services. It also gives parents hope in highlighting current laws that are being passed and also organisations that are striving to get parental rights restored like parentalrights.org Then @familyprotection gave real assistance in the form of Sbd or Steem donated to families that needed help. One such mother is Maya whose daughter was taken away by CPS and @familyprotection gave her Sbd for her appeal court case that was in April. Unfortunately, she lost the case but she did not give up on her daughter. She is still fighting.

You can read about it here:
https://steemit.com/familyprotection/@mayaabb/mcfd-kicks-me-out-of-creston-bc-as-they-abuse-my-child-in-care

Familyprotection also donated 43,039 STEEM and 162,939 SBD!!! to a Russian grandmother who stand to lose her grandchildren after her daughter died.
https://steemit.com/familyprotection/@taliakerch/familyprotection-has-helped-the-family-a-report-about-donations-for-the-family-that-fights-with-cps

If you are not familiar with @familyprotection, you can read about them here:
https://steemit.com/introducemyself/@familyprotection/we-are-family-protection-keeping-families-safe-together

You can support @familyprotection by directly donating to their wallet. Most steemians who write for @familyprotection, donate back a part of their rewards on payout. If you donate because you have heard it here on Spice4life just put in donation spice4life. Even if you donate one or two sbd, we have a saying that a little bit by bit makes a lot! As seen above your donation will be use to help families/parents in need.

As we stay hopeful that change is going to come for parents and children let listen to Dana Winner, Let the Children Have a World, a 1998 pop song and then Imagine Dragons - Its Time, a 2012 Alternative Indie song.

So for my love and marriage segment, I also want to share a post that was posted in @familyprotection which deals with gender roles and how CPS use that to destroy marriages and then kidnap the children.

I went on the share from this post of @kryptocoin.

https://steemit.com/familyprotection/@kryptocoin/your-families-cps-and-the-poison-of-skewed-feminism
Parents take note of this article. Women don't let your feminism be the downfall of your family. Please go read the article. @kryptocoin writes a lot of post for @familyprotection. Show him some love when you visit the page as the above link will be past voting.

That was my story guys and girls. I said my goodbyes and thank you's and played out with:

Colbie Caillat, Brighter as the sun.

Thank you for reading. You can listen to my playlist of that show here:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAIdexPULB6NE0isKY89dFiA9RIjZ7S6O

Source: https://howtobehappy.guru/step-3-how-to-be-happy-in-7-steps-happiness-is-a-state-of-mind/
Images as mentioned on or below the pictures!

@hope777