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RE: What Our Brains DO: Living With, Processing and Dealing with Hardships
I think there's a nice balance somewhere. I do think it's good to be really aware of what is and is not making you happy. I even think it's good to change things up to facilitate feeling better. I do that a lot. However, I'll say that for the most part, that is a bandaid. Moving, changing relationships, etc never made me happy. It's always a choice. So comes the grin and bear it. Honestly, even though you may not be happy, there's at least a recognition that you probably won't change that by changing climates or husbands or what have you.
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It seems to me that a lot of people get trapped by the myth that "movement" somehow allows us to skip through depth processing. Some people go shopping, some watch endless TV, some watch cat videos on YouTube, some jump relationships. As you suggest, these are just bandaids. They allow a momentary injection of good feelings that mask the deeper issue... of course, the opposite "danger" is that you can get trapped in eternal processing of the deeper meanings of things, and then you forget to actually get out there and LIVE life!
Exactly that. I had a friend who would immediately go do something else every time she felt an inkling of difficulty. She just encountered the same shit over and over. But like you said, eternal processing is also pointless.
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