10 tips on how to talk about suicide
British Prime Minister Second World War, Winston Churchill, himself suffered from depression, called the mental illness - "black dog," which always accompany scary, depressing, does not engage in activities which previously liked. Depression can lead to thoughts of suicide. They afflicted person may even try to sell the idea. It should be borne in mind that depression is treatable - you just need the courage to seek help. And even if the "Black Dog" will never completely leave, patience, sense of humor, of life with wisdom, discipline can control even the dirtiest dog (he will be obedient and will not pose any danger).
September 10th designed to draw in a large number of suicides and to find ways to prevent them. Over the years, England committed suicide about 1,000 people. This is a very big number, so this needs to be addressed and not to be afraid to talk about it. Patients with depression live, learn and work with us. In most cases it is carefully concealed under artificial smiles. However, the immediate environment to people a little bit more open. What to say when another person suggests that the life he became unpleasant? How to comfort, encourage and how to make change their attitude? Such questions revolve in mind those who come into contact with someone who has depression. The most important thing to avoid charges. Your task - to try to get people calm down, feel better, and sincerely believing lighter tomorrow. Here are a few phrases that should be avoided speaking with the person who think about suicide.
10 phrases that should never have to say about suicidal people who think:
"How can you think of suicide? Your life is not so bad. " Maybe at first glance, human, who think about suicide, life does not seem so bad. The pain may lie deep inside. Such a person may be improved if he feel that someone understands and sympathizes with him. This phrase demonstrates the accusation, condemnation and disbelief, not understanding.
"Or at least I thought, what I will I feel distressed and hurt if you commit suicide?" You dear person already feels awful. Fault dock will not help him calm down, comforted. He will not feel understood and further closes itself.
"Kills just selfish." This leads to a sense of guilt. In particular, however, that many people who satisfy the criteria for suicide, believes that they will be a burden to relatives, if they remain alive. Thus, they may want to reduce the burden of living loved ones. It is telling you does not diminish another person's pain or assist him to escape from suffering.
"Only cowards commit suicide." This encourages a sense of guilt. This phrase does not mean anything. Many people are afraid of death. The will does not die in the human courage and bravery, but also does not show and cowardice.
"You really think so. You do not really want to die. " These words are usually escapes feeling strong anxiety and fear of the other person. It may be that people actually think about it seriously. Their confession should be taken seriously, and not try to downplay.
"You have so many reasons to live." In the context of this particular phrase may turn optimistic, to give hope and to recall what he has in life. However, many people who are thinking about suicide and believe they do not have many reasons to live, this statement indicates that the person talking does not have a single drop of understanding.
"There could be worse." Of course, there may be worse, but the idea of the inhalation of joy and hope. There are two people: one of them pierced the chest, the other - a broken leg. For the chest is punctured is worse, but it does not reduce the pain on whom broken leg. Therefore, this expression has no value.
"Other people have greater problems, but they do not want to die like you." True, but probably most people are already thinking about it. People who want to die, often compare themselves with others, but you still want to end their lives. They feel defective or damaged. By comparing them with others only exacerbates their condition, to encourage them to further stigmatize themselves.
"Suicide is - this is a temporary solution to the problems." For adolescents, this phrase can be very effective. However, it is recommended not to talk about it, and about the real goal, which can move a person to overcome their problems and, despite them, to live a meaningful life. It should not talk about solutions, but about what actually can be done.
"Go to hell if you commit suicide." Your loved one of this possibility probably already thought. It may be that a whole hell he does not believe. It may be that he believes in God who will forgive suicide. To say that they will go to hell, can only reinforce their sense of alienation and submerge into an even deeper depression.