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RE: The Psychology Behind Esoteric Energy

in #psychology7 years ago

We are used to thinking that people make their twists feel bad to make themselves feel better, but recent research suggests that this is not always the case. According to the innovative research, when someone makes us feel bad - he may be trying to help us!

There are many everyday situations in which such a thing can happen. For example, if I remind my student friend (who tends to postpone tasks) that she may fail if she does not study for the upcoming exam, I will evoke negative feelings in the short term - fear, anger, frustration, but in the long term I will help her to successfully complete her academic degree Which she had set for herself.

Thank you very much for this post

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Yes, and any good parent knows that you can't just fill your children's minds with rainbows and bunny rabbits, then expect them to become well adjusted adults. I think intentions are the key. If I express a negative observation about someone else, what are my intentions? If I am doing it solely for their benefit, then I have done a good thing. My conscience is clear whether or not he or she was willing to hear me. If I do it for that sweet, sweet sense of smug superiority, then any truth in what I say is irrelevant since the act of expression was entirely self serving in and of itself.

There is a sentence in Hebrew that the Sages of Blessed Memory said:

"אין אומרים כל שבחו של אדם בפניו,מקצת שבחו שלאדם אומרים בפניו, וכולו שלא בפניו" No man's praise is said to him, Some of the praise of a person is said in his face, and all in his face

Very difficult to translate it into English, but the translation is:
That when a person praises his face then it leads him to want to keep moving forward
Therefore, it is clear that there is nothing wrong with saying praise, each person needs feedback from his environment, and everyone has the need to feel that someone loves and values him.
What this means is that if it helps a person in a good and correct way, he should be told and enticed
But, if the statement will produce the opposite result, do not say to him.

I'm not sure if I understand what you're saying. I'm a little foggy on what is meant by "a person who praises his face..."

Ok, I searched around and found this:

" It is not advisable to praise people in their faces without reservations because they may think they are perfect"

The source in the Talmud (Eruvin 18b):
"Rabbi Yirmiyahu ben Elazar said:" Some of the praise of a person is said in his face and everything is not in his face. "

Is this the saying you are talking about?

Here is a sentence in Latin that is relevant. It reads:

"Si linguis hominum loquar, et angelorum, caritatem autem non habeam, factus sum velut æs sonans, aut cymbalum tinniens."
In English it reads:
"I may speak with every tongue that men and angels use; yet, if I lack charity, I am no better than echoing bronze, or the clash of cymbals."

Thank you very much for the reply to the post,
Exactly, sorry for the non-answer as obvious as mine

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