Having the insight that not fitting in with particular requirements doesn't mean that you are not the one in the wrong is liberating,

....there are scars from the journey, but that's life. (We all have 'em in one way or another).
The cost is high.

But I wouldn't pay a penny less! lol

as you seem to have conquered them through engaging in some thorough self-reflection :)

Nah!
More like partying hard, hedonism, and narcotics - it was nothing that insightful, IMO.
(I never ate a single lentil during my entire 'self reflection' period! lol).
...Ok, a little bit flippant, but you see what I mean?

I already knew myself, somehow -I just needed some external confirmation about me, for a year decade, or three....
Negative family feedback, from as young as I can remember, needs some exhorcizing, I can tell you!!(With the exception of my Dad, of course.)

Have a great weekend!