RE: Flashing your nuts and emotional control
This is an interesting point of view. Emotional expression is promoted by psychologists. Inability to express one’s emotions, to bottle things up until it’s too late can be fatal, as often seen in some societies (Japan, Switzerland as just as an example).
Fortunately or unfortunately people aren’t molded as identical units with different serial numbers. And as much as you d like them to all be equipped with the same set of skills, even going as far as giving the same curriculum at schools, it’s not going to work. There are as many variables existing that would interfere as there are cells in one body :)
As far as the allergy analogy goes, though, it’s nice but not the way allergies work. Some are there present from birth. Some disappear as kids grow and some can take years to develop and present themselves as a sudden onset :)
Like this one recent example:
https://nypost.com/2018/10/30/antarctica-scientist-stabbed-colleague-for-spoiling-book-endings-report
I'd posit that emotional expression and emotional reaction are two different things. The controlling of emotions first needs acknowledgement of that emotion and choosing not to react in a way that would be detrimental. Bottling up emotions speaks to me more of blocking them off and not acknowledging them, which isn't a good way to deal with them either.
Admittedly, in the past we never really talked about emotions, so I guess that led to bottling up. Now we are learning that emotions need acknowledgment in order to be handled better in the heat of the emotion. A psychologist can not fix us, but they can guide us in seeing what triggers those emotions and how we can learn to handle them.
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Emotional control is not "bottling up", it is control. Unrestrained emotional reaction is what leads to polarized emotional positions and views like, "bottling it up".
People aren't identical which means that they have to learn to control themselves but instead, they outsource the responsibility to a society and people like pscychologists who can do as much harm as good. Some external authority.
Allergies change over time, some are treatable or manageable, some fade, some grow. Just like people. Understanding our own allergies is the way to go rather than expecting everyone else to do the work for us. The analogy works fine. People are hyper-sensitive to the world yet do not know how to control themselves which is why some people snap, some go dull, some suicide, some murder, some happen to have happy lives. Learning what works for the individual takes effort most people outsource to groups with agendas.
So basically self-development is a cool thing :) can’t dissagree with that.