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RE: Spiritual Blind Spots: Are You Doing Yourself, What You Hate In Others?
It is exactly as you say.
It is almost definitional, that what you are angry at, you are facing within yourself.
The best proof is healing. Once you have healed that trauma, the underlying structure from which the anger comes up from, it is like the whole thing goes away. You see the event happening less and less, nor do you get upset about it when you see it.
You no longer turn to anger, you turn to healing.
Anger is supposed to be a short duration emotion. If someone has done you wrong, anger is an appropriate response. Learning to deal with that anger is a skill of negotiation and boundary setting.
If the anger last a long time, it is a deep traumatic wound that you must dig down, find and heal.
Yes, absolutely. Often anger is present to attempt to protect from what fear is frightened of, so we must address and heal the fear that is beneath it for anger to end. Often people will accept their anger but deny their fear (pretend they have no fear) and so they get stuck with both.