Love or addiction

Love has a lot of substitutes: sympathy, romance, love, sexual attraction, passion, even envy. One of the varieties of love addiction: emotional, material, physical. Love or addiction — how to understand what unites partners? After all, when looking at the relationship through rose-colored glasses, to distinguish one from another is nearly impossible. Let the answer be these words:
"Love has three dimensions.
One is the dimension of dependence; it happens to most people. The husband depends on the wife, the wife depends on the husband; they exploit each other, dominate each other, belittle each other to the goods. Ninety-nine percent of cases worldwide is what is happening. That's why love, which can open the door of heaven opens only the doors of hell.
-The second possibility is love between two independent people. It also occasionally occurs. But it brings suffering, because there's a constant conflict. There can be no attuned; both are so independent that no one is willing to compromise, to adapt to the other. With poets, artists, thinkers, scientists, all those who live in a kind of independence, at least in their minds, it is impossible to live; they are too eccentric people. They give the other freedom, but their freedom seems more indifference than freedom, and looks like they still like for them it doesn't matter. They give each other to live in your space. Relationships seem to be only superficial; they are afraid to go deeper into each other, because they are more attached to their freedom than to love and don't want to compromise.
And a third option of interdependence. It happens very rarely, but when it happens, it's heaven on earth. Two people, neither dependent nor independent, but in infinite synchronicity, as if breathing together, one soul in two bodies – when this happens, is love. Call love just that.
Love or addiction — how to understand what is what? The first two types really do not like, they just take action – social, psychological and biological measures. The third is something spiritual."
Source: http://www.planetapsy.ru/obsuzhdeniya-psihologov/lubov-ili-zavisimost